August 27th, 2019

“I Can’t Believe I Said That!”

Have your ever been in a heated argument with your spouse and something slips out of your mouth that you know will be so hurtful - but it’s out and you can’t retrieve it from the air before it hits the ears of the other? Yeah - come on, admit it - we’ve all been there.  

One concept I want you to take to heart is this - a believer in Christ is the temple of the Holy Spirit.

“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:19-20‬

Each person was purchased with the powerful sacrifice, blood, and crucifixion of Jesus Christ. When we receive Him, we are then indwelt by the Holy Spirit.

So understand that when you attack each other with the desire to hurt - you are attacking a temple of the Holy Spirit.

This actually grieves Him.

“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.” Ephesians‬ ‭4:29-30

We grieve the Holy Spirit when we attack each other because it’s like we are trying to destroy the temple of God. We would never imagine ourselves doing this in the Old Testament times. We could never imagine going into the temple with a sledge hammer and destroying it for fear that God would kill us. Realize when you tear down each other, that’s exactly what you’re doing.  

“Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭3:16-17‬

Now this is speaking of the church, but it is made up of individual members and each spouse is a part of the church.  

So let God’s peace prevail. Let’s obey the direction set forth in the word of God.

“Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.” Ephesians‬ ‭4:31-32‬

So when a heated discussion happens, remember that each of you are in Christ, which will keep you both from saying things you will regret. Instead, Christ will help you stay calm with His peace. Then, when the discussion is over, you will say things that reinforce your love and tenderness toward each other.

Aaron L Gravett

Aaron L Gravett is a minister/public speaker and author.
You can find more content about Keeping the Peace - Fighting Well in his book Discovering a New Beginning: A Journey in Remarriage.

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